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04-Jan-2020 13:35

As I argue in “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” the college and post-college hookup culture is a byproduct, not of Tinder or Facebook (another target of modern scolds), but of shifting demographics among the college-educated.

Much as the death toll of WWI caused a shortage of marriageable men in the 1920s, today’s widening gender gap in college enrollment has created unequal numbers in the post-college dating pool.

Recently, I heard about a woman who had complained bitterly of being treated “very badly” by men.

Immediately-- perhaps because I had been reading a thriller-- my mind conjured up images of her having been thrown out of a moving vehicle, such as a car or a train. She was referring merely to the fact that her last two boyfriends had broken up with her. The entire process of dating is marked by interruption and rejection.

Similarly, dating behavior in general should be measured by that standard.

The rules of proper dating reflect that underlying concern.

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